Marriage is the union between a man and his wife joined together in holly matrimony. It could be Traditional Marriage, Religious Marriage or Legal Marriage. Which of these types of marriages one adopt is majorly determined by one’s culture or belief.
In most culture and traditions especially in the African cultures and the Islamic Religion it is allowed for a man to marry more than one wife (Polygamy).
In Islam the tradition for a man to marry more than one wife and at most four wives is derived from the injunction of Allah in the Glorious Quran and examplified by many of the prophets of the Religion like Prophets Ibrahim, Yaaqub etc.
This is as a result of the many benefits attached to the practice. In describing the Significance of Polygamy, below are some of the saying of some scholars with regards to Marrying more than one wife.
Assāhib bn Ubbād said:
“I met the biographers saying, “Mr X died and UNDER him were Mrs Y and Mrs Z (stating his wives). But if he had just one wife, they will say, Mr X died and he left ABOVE him Mrs Y.”
Ibn Sīnā said:
“The one with one wife suffers ailments in his body and soul. His body grows older than his actual age. He suffers pains in his backbones, knees and joints. He suffers severe haplessness and hopelessness. His face loses brightness and his nagging and whining becomes extreme.”
Al-Qādī bn Abī Mas’ūd said:
“He who has just one wife is NOT fit for the post of a judge or settling dispute among people.”
Ibn Hayyān at-Tawhīdī said:
“I met a people who would never allow anyone with just one wife to sit in the same circle with them. They consider him to be among the minors.”
Ibn Khaldūn said:
“I looked critically at (the history of) the destroyed nations and I realized that they were used to being married to just one wife.”
Al-‘Ābid bn Mīsār said:
“A man shall not be firm in his religiosity if he has just one wife.”
It was said to Ma’mūn bn Hārūn ar-Rashīd:
“There are people in Basrah, each of whom is married to just one wife. He said, they are NOT men. Their wives are the real men. They violate nature and Sunnah.”
It was said to Abū Ma’rūf al-Karakhī:
“What’s the ruling of a people who claim ascetism and chose to marry only one wife? He said, they are MAD. No matter how ascetic they are, they never can reach ⅒ of the level of Abūbakr, or Umar or Uthmān or Alī.”
“Ibn Fayyād was asked concerning men with only one wife. He said, they are DEAD men eating, drinking and breathing.”
“When ibn Is’hāq an-Naysābūrī was appointed as governor of AlKirk, he stopped payment of donations to those with just one wife. When he was queried for his decision, he said, this is the wealth of Allāh and we shall not give it to FOOLS.”
“Ibn ‘Atā-Allāh said concerning people with just one wife, “Whoever does not insist on establishing the Sunnah of the elders (the prophet and his Sahābah), we count him to be among the NONENTITIES.”
“When Taqiyyuddīn al-Muzanī traveled to Samarkand as a jurist, the people said, each man among so and so tribe is married to just one wife. He replied, and they are Muslims? (He doubted their being Muslims). So he admonished them so much so that before the next moon, about three thousands of them conducted another marriage to the extent that all women, singles or previously married (but widowed or divorced) became married.”
Imām al-Husarī said:
“When Allāh mentioned marriage, He started with two, three and four, leaving one for the last. This is because fear diminishes the perfection of a man. (That is, why would a man fear injustice among multiple wives and rather opt for just one, if truly he’s a man?)”
It obvious from the above sayings that Marriage is not for kids, for you to be married, it means you have attained some level of maturity both physically, spiritually, mentally, morally, and socially. And as such, your’re expected to act accordingly.
My advise however is that Polygamy should be for those who have the means materially and in terms of maturity both physically, spiritually, mentally, morally, and socially.
What is your take on this? Do you believe that the world would have been a better place, if Marrying more than one wife was accepted by all?